The main lesson that I have learned about meditation is to be non-judgmental and non-resistive in perceiving what is there. The mind does its own thing, and that is a phenomenon worthy of observation too.
Regulation of what one says to others is part of being thoughtful. But I see no reason why one must regulate or suppress one’s own thoughts from oneself in meditation.
In fact, in my view, such a suppression of thoughts brings about a lack of clarity in one’s consideration of what is there.
When you suppress your undesirable thoughts they stay with you. They don’t go away. You are simply not-is-ing them (telling yourself it is not there) using your idea of morality.
But as you closely examine your thoughts you suddenly realize why the undesirable thoughts are there. The moment you know this underlying truth, the undesirable thoughts vanish forever.
You may get rid of your undesirable thoughts only by as-is-ing them (seeing them as they are). This is mindfulness meditation.
This is the basic Law of spirituality. Religions get derailed and get a bad name when the followers do not follow this Law of Spirituality.
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Morality
People are often conditioned by social morality enforced by the Church. This gets into conflict with their natural sense of ethics. A person who has fixed beliefs about morality is heavily denying that he has any undesirable thoughts, while he is full of them.
A person who is regulating his thought by suppressing them from himself is not being honest with himself. Therefore, he will not be able to resolve his undesirable thoughts and make spiritual progress.
In short, morality is imposed on a person by the society. The sense of ethics is natural to the person. An imposition of morality suppresses the natural sense of ethics of the person and conditions his thinking.
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Grace
The mechanical element is the predictability of things and associations according to existing conditioning.
The true spiritual element is the unpredictability of the appearance and disappearance of things and associations. It is this unpredictability of the spiritual element that is interpreted by humans as the “grace of god”.
But, like any dichotomy, “spiritual and mechanical” form the two ends of the same graduated scale. In other words, these concepts are relative to each other.
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