“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
― Lao Tzu
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Reference: Scientology
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This process is for those who zealously try to convince others of their ideology, and get easily upset when people do not see things their way. They feel that they are being made wrong when inconsistencies are pointed out in their convictions. They cannot take any criticism. They cannot discuss calmly.
Scientologists use a special word at the first whiff of any criticism – INVALIDATION, as in, “You are invalidating me.” But words like WOGS and RAW MEAT are built into their vocabulary for those who are not scientologists.
Scientologists not only scream against being invalidated, but they also invalidate back immediately using convenient Scientology vocabulary like “suppressive,” “antago” or “1.1”. This button of “invalidation” tends to be very prominent among Scientologists both ways.
Recently, I was called “antago” in a Scientology groups on Facebook because I presented the Buddhist view that soul is impermanent. This view went against their cherished belief in an eternal “thetan.” In the upset that followed nothing that I could say made any difference. They were simply not willing to listen. They started to misinterpret anything I had to say, and make me wrong any way they could. No discussion was possible.
Those who often feel invalidated may find some relief from using the following process.
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THE PROCESS
Scientologists use processes. So here is a process for those who very often feel invalidated. Contemplate on
“What is it that is getting invalidated?”
This process is done with KHTK approach (mindfulness), and not with Scientology approach (listing). Take the first item that comes at the top of the mental stack and mindfully contemplate over it. Then take the next, and the next, until no more items are coming up.
The 12 aspects of mindfulness are:
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Observe without expecting anything, or attempting to get an answer.
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Observe things as they really are, not as they seem to be.
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If something is missing do not imagine something else in its place.
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If something does not make sense then do not explain it away.
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Use physical senses as well as mental sense to observe.
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Let the mind un-stack itself.
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Experience fully what is there.
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Do not suppress anything.
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Associate data freely.
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Do not get hung up on name and form.
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Contemplate thoughtfully.
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Let it all be effortless.
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One will find that it is always a consideration that one holds dear, which one feels is getting invalidated. Recognize that consideration. Then recognize your attachment to, or identification with that consideration.
One starts out being the sum total of one’s considerations.
Know thyself.
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