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Being Comfortably There

Comfortable

Reference: Mindfulness Meditation

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EXERCISE MM 5:

Being comfortably there.

PURPOSE:

To train the student to BE there comfortably in the presence of another person. The idea is to get the student to BE there and not do anything else but BE there.

PRE-REQUISITES:

The student must have completed Exercise MM 4: Relief from Guilt

The student must have read and understood: Be a Friend

INSTRUCTIONS:

You sit with a fellow student a comfortable distance apart facing each other with eyes closed. There is no conversation. This is a silent drill. (Note: The fellow student may be different for different sessions).

Both must establish themselves in mindfulness meditation with the awareness that another is sitting in front of you. Comfortably perceive whatever is presented by your environment and the mind. Hold still, watching the flow of your breath, not attaching yourself to passing attitudes, emotions, sensations and pains, and see what happens.

Do this with eyes closed for the first half of the session. In the second half of the session, the students sit and look at each other and say and do nothing. (Note: You may set up an alarm when to switch.) Students must not speak, blink, fidget, giggle or be embarrassed or go unconscious. They must not use a body part or some system to confront. There should be no apologizing or moving or being startled or embarrassed or defending self. They should just BE there and PERCEIVE.

Many reactions may occur, but they all disappear as one perseveres with this exercise.

Each session may be 20 to 30 minute long; but a session can be as long as two hours. You may continue with this exercise over several sessions until you reach the end of this exercise.

END OF THE EXERCISE:

When the students can BE there comfortably and PERCEIVE and have reached a major stable win, the exercise is passed.

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The Comfort of Friendship

Friend

Reference: Mindfulness Meditation

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As a person handles his feelings of guilt he starts to become his own friend. He can now see more of his natural self. His defensive façade starts to melt away. His level of affinity comes up, and he starts to feel differently about others. He wants to go out and talk to other people. But there could be a feeling of shyness. He may still hold himself back because he does not feel comfortable in the presence of others.

However, the truth is that we are not very different from each other. As you learn more about yourself, you are actually learning more about others at the same time. Others have the same curiosities, urges, fears, anxieties, aches and pains as you have. They may have somewhat different experiences and reactions, but, at the core, others are not very different from you.

Shyness is a general reaction you may feel in the presence of others. When you meet a stranger or somebody familiar, other reaction may arise. It is simply a matter of facing and letting go of a new level of reactions.

As you get rid of more reactions, you come to learn more about yourself; and in doing so, you come to learn more about others. Finally you can simply be there and comfortably perceive no matter whom you meet. At this point you have become more yourself.

You have also become a friend to others; because a friend is one who can calmly listen and assist.

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A Scientific Approach to Meditation

Mindfulness

Reference: Research in Metaphysics

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BOOK: A Scientific Approach to Meditation

Preface: (Approach to Meditation)

Chapter 1: Introduction to Meditation

Chapter 2: The Meaning of Enlightenment

Chapter 3: Posture in Meditation

Chapter 4: Meditation 101: Posture

Chapter 5: Settling the Mind Down

Chapter 6Meditation 102: Reactions

Chapter 7Meditation 103: Reaction to People

Chapter 8: Meditation 104: Reaction to Locations

Chapter 9: Unwinding the Mind

Chapter 10: Meditation 105: Suppressed Memories

Chapter 11: Walking Meditation

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On these materials, I would love to have the following feedback from you.

Email: vinaire@yahoo.com

1. Can you follow what I am saying?

2. Are there some portions that are boring?

3. Are there places where the language is a bit unrealistic?

4. Which passages you had to read twice?

5. Which sections do you remember best?

6. Which parts could be eliminated?

Thank you.

Relief from Guilt

Relief from Guilt

Reference: Mindfulness Meditation

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EXERCISE MM 4:

Relieve the feeling of guilt.

PURPOSE:

To train the student to BE there comfortably and face the feeling of guilt. The idea is to get the student to BE there and not do anything else but BE there.

PRE-REQUISITES:

The student must have completed Exercise MM 3: Anomalies in Thinking

The student must have read and understood: The Feeling of Guilt

 

INSTRUCTIONS:

Establish yourself in meditative posture. Comfortably perceive whatever is presented by your environment and the mind. Hold still, watch the flow of your breath, not attach yourself to passing attitudes, emotions, sensations and pains, and see what would happen.

When a feeling of guilt appears, become very alert. Look at it more closely to see where it is coming from. Look at exactly what you did, or did not do, that you are feeling guilty about. Get the exact time, place, form and event. If you are having difficulty in focusing on details then write it out on paper one point at a time. Be totally honest. Do not justify or rationalize.

As the details comes into focus, ask yourself,

“How does this action or inaction look from the Universal viewpoint?”

“What is making it violate the law of Continuum?”

Keep looking at your action with these questions at the back of your mind. Simply BE there and do nothing else but BE there.

As you persevere in being there, the feeling of guilt starts to unravel and the preconceived notion comes to view. This may produce many realizations.

Each session may be 20 to 30-minute long; but a session can be as long as two hours. You may continue with this exercise over several sessions until you reach the end of this exercise.

END OF THE EXERCISE:

When you can BE there comfortably and PERCEIVE and have reached a major stable win, the exercise is passed.

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The Feeling of Guilt

Guilt

Reference: Mindfulness Meditation

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Note: The following data has been researched from Buddhism and other disciplines derived from Buddhism. It is scientific in the sense that it is universally consistent.

The feeling of guilt exists because a person has committed an act that he should not have. He is afraid that if others found out about it then he would suffer their disapproval, and there would be unpleasant consequences. Furthermore, if someone was nearby when he committed that act, he is left wondering if that other person knew about it or not. All this causes him great unhappiness.

The feeling of guilt arises when the person has violated a moral code he has agreed to with those around him. These moral codes are there to ensure the survival of a group, community, or society. They are put together from the viewpoint of that group, community or society. But as the person is now afraid of his personal survival, it endangers the survival of that group, community, or society as well. The solution lies in safely releasing the feelings of guilt.

Such feelings of guilt can be released safely through mindfulness meditation.

The feeling of guilt is an anomaly because it violates the law of Continuum. It exists because the person is looking from a narrow viewpoint, and he is unaware of the pre-conceived notions underlying it. To release the feeling of guilt the person must look at what happened from a universal viewpoint. But, in so looking, one must not hide anything from oneself.

If you are to embark on this action in meditation, you must look at what you did, or did not do, in complete detail. You must be totally honest with yourself. You must not justify or rationalize your action. Writing it out on paper may help.

  1. Look at exactly what you did, or did not do, that you feel guilty about.

  2. Then explicitly look at the specifics regarding the action or inaction, including:

    • Time: A precise instant at which something happened.
    • Place: A definite location.
    • Form: The general pattern of things.
    • Event: That which happened.

If you have written it out, you may destroy the paper after you have gotten the exact time, place, form and event.

In any case, there is a preconceived notion to be discovered, whether it is individual or social. Such a discovery will free you from the feeling of guilt. It will bring a great sense of relief.

You will then know exactly what to do to fully clear up the situation with others.

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