Reference: DEATH: An Inside Story
“A bodiless being is a completely defenseless life. That is why that aspect of life must be conducted with utmost responsibility. When someone gives this being a little bit of help at the last moment, it will go a long way. Most of their sadhana for the next time will be taken care of at that moment itself.” ~ Sadhguru
7.1 The Importance of the Last Moments of Life
DISEMBODIED STATE
Right now, when you are in the body, you are like a river, going in one direction. When you become disembodied, it is like you evaporated and became like a cloud. Whichever way the wind blows, you will go that way. Leaving the body and losing the discretionary mind is like that. Once you die, you are just fluff, floating around according to your karmic tendencies.
BEING HUMAN
The significance of being a human is that you have the ability to discriminate and choose the course of your life. If you don’t employ that, then you are not much of a human being.
LOSING BODY
When you lose the body, your ability to discriminate is gone. All the memory and other mind-stuff are still there; only the discriminatory process is lost. The moment of death is a significant factor because whatever is the content of one’s mind at that moment— pleasantness or unpleasantness—it could multiply manifold because of the lack of discriminatory mind. Even when in the body, someone who loses their discrimination will stay depressed for long periods of time if they get into depression, while pleasant experiences will turn into addictions.
MOMENT OF DYING
In Indian culture, when someone is dying, he is supposed to chant the name of God, and not cry in distress. The idea is to generate some thought to think beyond oneself. This last dimension of thought and emotion that you create becomes the major tendency in that being. You must create an appropriate atmosphere and see how he can die peacefully. This is because these tendencies will go on for lifetimes. This is a tremendous opportunity to enhance someone’s life.
REBIRTH
A bodiless being is a completely defenseless life. When someone gives this little being a little bit of help at this last moment, it will go a long way. When you help a person die well, all his struggles are washed off, just like that. You can make them earn what they did not earn all their life. All this can be accomplished if you can create the right situation for them and help them to die well. This is a huge contribution to that being’s life. He is born with the right quality. This is the simplest way to ensure a being is reborn pleasant.
7.2 Helping Suffering People Die
PROLONGED SUFFERING
We are seeing more and more people surviving as vegetables here for a long time. This prolonged suffering would not be there if you did not unnecessarily interfere with the process of life and go on medically pushing death. Without this, no one will stay beyond their natural time. If there is a 100 per cent medical prognosis that there is no way to recover, they can withdraw the medication.
MERCY KILLING
If you are afraid of old age and suffering, start doing some sadhana now to prepare yourself so that you can leave when you want to. You do not want to wait for that moment and ask to be given poison. You live as long as it is effective and you leave gracefully when you have to leave, not through mercy killing. If you are really progressive, you should advocate empowering individuals with the power to shed their body at will through sadhana.
PROJECTION OF LIFE
Inward projection of life energies gives you organic unity and stability of life. Outward projection gives you a strong presence and expression of life. This see-saw is naturally happening with all life, including human beings. It is always life which makes the decision to stay because the body is still hospitable. It is best to let life take its course, rather than allow people to issue a death certificate for the living.
PALLIATIVE CARE
There is need to go through pain if there is no medical need to suffer it. But if the painkillers are overly sedative and you are not even barely conscious, then it is not the best way to leave.
7.3 About Dying at Home
There is much care and effort to inform people about choking while eating; but there is nothing done on how to handle death. People think by not talking about it, by not preparing for it, it is not going to happen.
It is time we prepared ourselves to do at least a few things to ensure that this person who is dying does not have to go through unnecessary suffering. Death happens slowly; so there are certain preparations that can be made to reduce the choppiness of the moment and assist the withdrawal of life during that time.
If you are dying at home, it is best you withdraw into a clean, white room with mild-blue light. No photographs, nothing. If there is a tinge of blue around you, this will help you to die well. Another simple thing you can do to help is to have a lamp burning twenty-four hours of the day, next to that person. A ghee lamp is preferable, but you can also use butter. This creates a certain aura so that the choppy nature of withdrawal can be regulated to some extent.
Next, you can have a chant or something with the right kind of sounds going on. These should be the kind of sounds that will touch the fundamentals of who you are. It would be even better if they are consecrated sounds or chants or mantras. And better still if you have internalized it beforehand. Internalizing a chant can be a very powerful tool in life and in death.
NOTE: This section must be read in full because there is lot of practical information here.
7.4 Rituals from Death to the Disposal of the Body
Declaring Dead
You do not diagnose someone as dead, you declare that they are dead. When you declare them dead, it is only for you that they are dead. As far as that person is concerned, in a way, all that has happened is that he or she is disembodied—they have lost their body.
The Laying Out of the Body
Even after death has happened, it is good to place the body in a north–south alignment, with the head to the north. Once you do this, certain changes happen more quickly in the physiology of the body that has been discarded. The being realizes that it is futile to hang around that particular body because it cannot access it any more. A certain distance arises between the being and the body, which is very conducive for what has to happen next for the being.
Tying the Big Toes Together
The next thing to do after death is to tie the big toes together. This will tightly close the anal outlet and Muladhara Chakra. Once this happens the being cannot get in and repossession of the body cannot happen. This will also protect the body from being used by people who are into occult practices.
Washing and Clothing the Body
The next thing to do is wash the body with water. The idea is not to just clean the body, but to facilitate the complete withdrawal of life from the body as running water has the ability to clear many aspects off the body. Now, once again, you lay the body in north–south alignment in an open space. The body is kept naked, with just a white cloth covering it.
Things Not to Do around a Dead Body
One thing is that you should not sleep near a dead body. Another thing is that one should not cook or eat near a dead body. One should also avoid unnecessary touching of the dead body. One more thing is that you do not leave the dead body alone. In India, if someone close to you dies, you are supposed to keep a ghee, butter or sesame-oil lamp burning near the body. People are supposed to sit and watch—no one leaves a dead body alone.
Paying Respects to the Dead
In almost all parts of the world, if someone is dead, people who knew the person come and pay their respects for who he or she was. But in India, a dead person is generally treated as a Divine being and one bows down to them. This is life. This is the basis of life, and with that you don’t argue. You don’t question its wisdom. You just bow down because it is way beyond you.
The Belongings of the Dead Person
When a person is dead, the articles of clothing that have been intimately in touch with their body, such as the underclothes, must be burned immediately. Other clothes, jewellery and other articles are distributed not just to one person but among many people within three days.
To Burn or Bury
If someone exits their body consciously, or even if not consciously, they at least left gently or seeped out of the system, then you can bury them. But if they were jolted out of the system, you must burn the body. If someone dies when they are still young and vibrantly alive, it is better to cremate them. Only if someone dies of old age, you can bury them. You will see if someone very dear to you is dead and their body is there, you will keep on hallucinating, ‘Maybe they are just sleeping, maybe they will sit up, maybe some miracle will happen. Maybe something else will happen.’ You know, this will go on unnecessarily. You will see people crying and a big emotional drama happening. But the moment the body is cremated, you will see everyone becomes silent. Always.
Bringing Home the Body
People have this strong sentiment that wherever the person died, his or her body should be brought home for burial or cremation. Today, we eat things which come from around the world or at least around the country and, moreover, we are loitering all over the planet. So where you are buried does not matter so much any more. It is more an emotional thing.
Cleansing the House
Whenever a death occurs in a place or a dwelling, generally, there are some cleansing processes that are to be done. This is not just for some hygiene reasons; you want to wipe off that energy completely from that place. You can do Pooja, or you can also cleanse the energy by taking a vibrant fire, like a camphor fire, all over the house. Doing some chants in that space also could be very beneficial.
Tonsuring the Head after Cremation
A common after-death Hindu ritual is tonsuring of the head of the male relatives of the deceased. This shaving of the head came into practice when people generally kept a lot of hair on their head. Long hair used to gather an aura of death. It is not necessary today for people whose hair are short.
Spreading the Ashes
After the death has happened, it can take up to forty days for the being to completely leave the body. Even if you have burned the physical body, they will look for certain elements of the body like the ash or maybe their used clothes or something that belonged to them. It could be the sweat or smell of the body because, still the realization has not come that it is over. This is not desirable, so we want to eliminate it. One of the things that is done for this is to scatter the ashes as widely as possible. The effort is to do everything possible to make the being understand that it is over. This is also for the living to understand that it is all over.
7.5 Is It All Right to Donate Organs
Even if you have not lived your life in a useful manner, in death at least you could be useful! So if someone can use the dead body, it is fine. If one has died in a certain way, by consciously exiting the body, then it is not good to dismember one’s body. But if people have died in normal ways, it is all right to do it. It has nothing to do with spirituality. It is only an emotional problem. If something is useful for someone, if they can see or live making use of it, it is okay. Moreover, for a person to die with the intention—‘Let my body be useful to ten people’—is a good thing.
7.6 Dematerializing the Body
All the after-death rituals are mainly for the right disposal of the physical body and for assisting the being in its future journey. However, there are people who help themselves and do not require any assistance from anybody for this. These are highly accomplished yogis—they not only leave their body at will, they also dematerialize it. Essentially, this body is a play of five elements: 72 per cent of it is water, 12 per cent is earth, 6 per cent is air, 4 per cent is fire and the rest is aakash. With aakash, you don’t have to do anything. If you know how to dematerialize these other things, especially the earth, you will evaporate right here.
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